The Struggle With the Door
I started fumbling with the door in my living room some time ago. I stayed there for a long time and discovered that a particular knob we always turned to lock the door had become so stiff that I couldn’t turn it.
It happened like that several times. I fumbled with the knob, forcing it to close, and something occurred to me: if care weren’t taken, that knob would break because it wasn’t that strong.
Even though the security door was robust, the particular knob that slid in three iron bars to hook the door was always stiff.
I didn’t know what to do. I was battling and struggling with it.
One day, I said to myself, “Instead of struggling with this knob, let me stay there for a while and study why it’s not hooking properly. This is a new door, after all.”
Discovering the Secret to Control
So I stayed there to study how I could control that knob.
I discovered what the problem was. When locking the door, those three iron bars weren’t sliding properly.
- You had to use your hand to adjust them.
- Press the three sliders back properly.
- Then the knob would turn effortlessly.
That day, I discovered the secret. Instead of allowing something to control me, I studied why it was proving difficult.
Here’s the lesson I learned that day: If you can confront anything controlling you for a while and study why it’s dominating you, you’ll eventually gain control over it.
The Power of the Word “Control”
I’ve found out that the strongest word in the history of mankind is CONTROL.
This word is so powerful that it can either be negative or positive. It can steer your life in a positive direction or a negative one, depending on the context in which you use it.
Control becomes positive or negative based on two things:
- You either GAIN control,
- Or you LOSE control.
Most people lose control daily instead of gaining it. They think things have to be the way they are.
Breaking the Myth of Temperament
For example, when someone keeps losing control to anger, they think that’s just how they were created. They conclude it’s their temperament.
Anything that’s destructive and threatens your well-being is never your temperament.
Back to my story about that door. Everyone in the house was also struggling with it. I told my wife what I did to gain control over the door.
So, each time she got to the door, she took control of it, and the knob never gave her trouble again.
When we made this discovery, my daughter was in school. She came back one day and said to me, “The door in front of the house isn’t locking properly again.”
The Cost of Losing Control
I told her what to do. From that day to this, she never came back to complain about the door.
If we hadn’t gained control over that door, we would have had to keep changing that engine repeatedly.
That would have cost money. Worse, after multiple changes, they might eventually destroy the door, which was quite expensive.
Every day, many things seek to control us.
- Some people’s moods control them.
- Others don’t know why they’re in a bad mood, but that mood ruins their whole day.
- Some lose control to depression without understanding why.
Things Around Us Seek to Control
Everything in life seeks to control us. Alcohol wants to control you. Gadgets designed for us want to control us.
You buy an iPhone, and it wants to control you. It wants you glued to it, wasting time on social media.
A lot of people lose money daily because they don’t know how to control their finances.
The strongest word that gives either victory or defeat is control.
- You either gain control,
- Or you lose control.
The Secret to Gaining Control
Whatever is confronting you, trying to control you, was made for you to control.
But you can never be in control of anything until you gain access to the secret that helps you take control.
That secret is what I share on this channel.
If you want to control:
- Your anger,
- An unhealthy sexual habit,
- Your weight,
You need the secret to control these things.
Control Begins With Awareness
Since I discovered this secret, I’ve applied it to every aspect of my life.
You’re not meant to be controlled by anything. You’re meant to control everything—except other people.
You’re not supposed to control people. You’re supposed to influence them with love and treat them the way you want to be treated.
But when it comes to situations and circumstances, you are supposed to be in control.
So, ask yourself:
- Are you in control, or are you being controlled?
- There’s no middle ground. It’s one or the other.
The Watchword of Responsibility
I recently told my children:
“Whatever you use or own must be under your control. A door must not control you. Whatever belongs to you must not control you.”
Many people get frustrated because small things control them—like the gas they use to cook at home.
Maybe the gas doesn’t burn well, or the knobs don’t turn properly, and it frustrates you.
Even people’s words can control you. Someone might pass a comment, and it ruins your whole mood, controlling you.
Remember: nothing is meant to control you.
The Secret of Those in Control
Look at people in control around the world. Study them. You’ll discover they know a secret that helps them control situations and circumstances.
People think responsibility means maturity or being married with a family. That’s not it. Responsibility means being in control.
When you’re in control of situations, you’re responsible. Marriage doesn’t make you responsible.
There are many irresponsible married people.
The Mission to Raise Responsible People
You’re responsible when you face circumstances—like anger, financial struggles, or temptations—and keep them in check.
If your finances are in disarray because you’re not in control, you’re irresponsible.
But even with a small income, if you’re in control of your finances, you’re responsible.
My mission on earth is to raise highly responsible people powered by grace.
If you want to become responsible, you must be in control. Nothing should control you—not your phone, people, or situations.
Take Charge of Your Life
Whatever you confront daily, learn to control it.
- Gain control over your time.
- Gain control over unhealthy habits.
Pause and ask yourself, “How can I gain control over this situation?”
If you’re sincere, I’ll help you answer that question.
Follow me on this channel, and I’ll show you how to control your health, stay fit, and live responsibly.
If you’ve lost control in any aspect, you can gain it back. Your watchword must always be: Never lose control; always gain control.
Popping up on your screen is a video on gaining control over unhealthy anger. Click it now, and I’ll see you there. Bye for now.
